2009-01-22 09:43:25 UTC
I took Jet in about 10 days ago. He has been almost the perfect solution to our desire to be dog owners. He is housebroken and much more responsive to commands than I expected. He is crate trained. He obeys the commands wait, sit, stay. I was working with him on leash training. I taught him not to chase our cats in a matter of a day with the use of a squirt bottle. He is very trainable and a lovable dog. He is like velcro with me and undoubtedly has accepted me as pack leader.
I have noticed several dominance qualities. He butts his head in my lap when he wants petted. He claws you with his paw to get more petting. He is very resistent to laying down and will stare at you a bit before he ducks his head and lays down. Knowing this, I have in the matter of a few days, had him responding very well to me as his leader. He is a bit more resistent to my husband who is a little more tentative than I am. I have been fostering a relationship with the dog and my 4 and 8 yr old daughters by having them feed him and give him treats after he does a command. He seems to be accepting of this and obeys them.
HOWEVER: last night my 22 month old son did something to the dog and I heard a low slightly drawn out growl. I was about 6 feet away from them and not sure what my son did but I think the dog was laying down and my son probably leaned his head down to rest on the dog's shoulder or side. I was so taken aback for this that I first asked my 4 yr old if it was her who made the sound. She said, no, it was Jet . My son in the meantime had walked away so there was no imposing threat. This was not the first time my son had touched the dog or even leaned on him. I do not encourage this and I have been working with my son too to tell him, pet the dog, not lay or be gentle. My son has not been abusive to Jet nor have I let him pester him.
I am beside myself with worry and fear that this dog will hurt my child or if not mine, other kids who frequent my home. I know I could work throught this training issue with time. I have a pretty extensive background with dogs and know that most problems are fixable. I have brought babies home to dogs but not dogs home to babies. I think Jet would co exist just fine with the toddler as long as he didn't do anything or try to take anything from him. Most of the time, my son does ignore the dog except for running his hand over him when he passes by. Jet has been fine with that, not even reacting in most cases.
Question to you all - is this dog a time bomb? Can you ever trust a dog again once they have growled at a person? Does he deserve the trust? How fixable it it and how intense is the problem in this context?
If I decide against keeping Jet, he will go back to the groomer to live a comfortable happy life. He will not be an outside dog again so I have the comfort of that. What would you do if you were me?