Why do I feel this way about my new puppy, Is it wrong?

Question

I am getting my new puppy this Sunday, we are meeting and taking him home this Sunday. He's 9 months old And I have saved up over 500 dollars to reach my dream of adopting my own puppy. I have finally succeeded but I feel wierd. When I go pick up my new puppy I have a little sister who I know will be ALL OVER my new puppy. I have worked sooo ohard to getting him that I am kind of jelouse and selfish, that I want him to be with me most of the time and bond with me more then any one because I'm doing the training and going to work in agility puppy classes with him and take him for walks and groom him bathe him feed him etc. I know my sister is going to want to snuggle him, kiss him non-stop, she's going to want to sleep with him , walk him and do everything when ugggg I know this is exciting for her and I want her to be with the puppy and me but I don't want her to mob him. It makes me feel just ,,, idk what I am feeling, why is this and what should i do. I LOVE my sis!!!!!

Answer 1

If you are going to be the one training, feeding, letting outside, etc. the puppy will look to you as if you are the pack leader and will look at your sister as just another pup in its pack.



I think you may sound a little jealous since she is only 6 years old. Your sis is still a baby.



Like I said above, your dog will think as you as his leader. Here is a link to follow if you want to do some research on the pack leader/alpha dog:



http://www.forpaws.org/articles/alpha.htm



Best of luck to you and your new puppy :o)

Answer 2

I think how you feel is pretty normal, actually. It sounds like you have been working hard to get this puppy, so of course your going to be attatched to him. It might be hard, but try to do things with both your sister and your puppy. For example, if you or your sister want to walk the puppy, you should both take him for a walk. One of you can walk him down the street, the other can walk him back. As for sleeping with him, just try talking with your sister; tell her that you really have been working hard for the new puppy and you were really planning on him sleeping with you. Also, tell her that the puppy may need to get up and go potty in the middle of the night, and someone has to be able to take him outside or clean up the mess. Let her know that you don't mind sharing your puppy with her, but that you want your own quality time with him as he is your responsibility. You might also want to tell your parents how you feel, maybe ask them if you can go pick up the puppy without your sister. The first few weeks are going to be difficult, and you are most likely going to be jealous for a while, but your little sis should lose interest in the puppy after a while. Just know that your puppy will have an important place in your life because of how hard you've worked for him; your sister will love your pup, but she won't feel the same way you do.



And don't be worried about your puppy bonding with your sister more than you because, as other users have said, you're the one that will be training him, so you will be a very special person to him. He will still love your sister and the rest of your family, but you will be the one that he spends a lot of important time with.

Answer 3

I see why your sister wants to do all of this, she is 6. I know you want to have this little baby all to yourself. Sometimes when a grown up has a new baby she wants to have that baby all to herself also. We cannot live a life without other people in it. Don't worry, this will only last a few days & your sister will be off doing other things. Just don't let her know that you feel this way. Sometimes little ones can feed into bad behaviours. Then the parents get in on it & it becomes an issue. I hope your other family members will think about you & not your sister. I hope they will not let the puppy sleep with her. Good luck.

Answer 4

Mate, trust me, the novelty will wear off quickly for her. How many times have you known your sister to get a brand new doll or toy for christmas and by new years she's gone back to playing with her old toys?



I know you love your sister and this is a big dream of yours but you might just have to share. Dont worry about it, dogs have plenty of love to go round, thats why their such good companions. I gotta say chances are your dog will love you all the same but respect you more if your the one training him. You could talk to your sister, with the help of your parents, and come up with some general rules to prevent the new pup becoming overwhelmed by your sis, she's only 6 she wont understand not to overwhelm the pup unless you and the 'rents talk to her about it.



With going out on walks your could tell your sister she's a bit too young to walk him or her own but she can walk with you, but because your bigger, its a good idea for you to hold the lead so he doesn't run away.



This is a good way, but let your sister do things too. Dog require a lot of attention and care, you might find it good that you've got a sidekick to help ya out. After all some dogs hate baths and stuff so you need a hand keeping him in the bath and relaxed.



If your doing all the training and general care, chances are he'll see you as the pack leader. As for your sister wanting him to sleep in her room, you could tell your parents that you want to crate train your dog (good idea cause it helps with housebreaking and comes in handy if he ever needs to stay overnight at the vets). You could either put the crate downstairs or in your bedroom. That way he knows his place is below you, but he's close.



Have fun raising a dog and try to share but remember you are older than your sister and its all really exciting for her.

Answer 5

Any owner who truly loves their dog will want as many people as possible to love him. That your little sister will naturally want to play with your little boy will in no way effect the bond you develop with him. If you spend the time you talk about training him, he will most likely be the closest to you. I can understand how, especially at your age, and how hard you must have worked to save that you might already be feeling a little jealous & worried, but the "ideal" pet is not one who only bonds to one person. Dogs who do this often become aggresive toward others & you might find yourself in another year begging your parents to let you keep him. If you love him, and he loves you, then no -one else should even be a concern

Answer 6

It's normal for you to feel a little jealous. She's going to want to be part of your puppy's life, and that's good, because dogs are part of our families, not possessions of one person. I strongly disagree with the person who said that only one person should train the dog. As a professional dog trainer, I highly recommend that training be a part of the family as well, because a well-trained dog must listen to everybody in the household.



Ask your parents to help you with your sister. Tell them what you told us. It's very likely that she'll be really excited at first, but then after the novelty wears off and the puppy starts chewing up her stuff, and she's on the receiving end of puppy biting, she'll be calling you to come get YOUR dog!



I highly recommend getting into a puppy socialization and training class ASAP. Aussies are great dogs, but they need socialization and training to be great dogs. Because they are herding dogs, they will chase anything that runs, and 6 yo girls tend to run and jump and squeal, so you're likely to run into problems with that behavior. They also can be dog-aggressive as adults if not well-socialized now and through the first year , so getting the puppy out to play with other friendly, vaccinated, healthy dogs is very important.



Call a trainer from the Association of Pet Dog Trainers:



http://www.APDT.com



Tell your parents that you want to crate train the puppy, and keep the crate in your room at night. Make sure that your little sister understands to let the puppy rest when she's tired, and not to hold and squeeze the puppy until it bites to get away from her. Make sure that nobody play tug games or plays "handsy" games with the puppy-- those all will encourage puppy biting, and you'll want to teach the puppy to put his mouth on toys instead.

Answer 7

okay i know just how you feel i want to get a border collie that my parents are probably going to let me get and i have cousins who come over all the time and i kinda don't want a dog either because basically im selfish that i worked so hard to buy this pup all the stuff and they will be all over it . what you are feeling is just you want it to be your dog and noone elses which i can see but dont let your feeling keep you from the puppy after you have the puppy for awhile im sure your sister will be bored and move on but until that time just have fun with the pup.



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Answer 8

In answer to your question, you feel this way because you are pre-concieving jealousy. It is very natural to feel this way, especially since you must have sacrificed so much to get to this amount of $$$ for this dog!



Before you bring the dog home, you will need to set some ground rules for your little sister. They can be one of two ways: She can either play with the dog at three specific times per day for a set amount of time (20/30 minutes) OR she can play with the dog all day long just NOT while he is practicing his obedience work and his agility training, nor his walks or feeding times.



She also is not to try to sleep with him in her room and she must understand that he will be a working member of the family that needs to avoid distractions at all costs if he is to learn his studies well enough to win. She is well-old enough to understand when is play time and when is work time if she has attended public schools.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with you feeling like that, I'm kinda the same way over my puppy. Just remember that she is only 6 and your alot older and need to act that way. The puppy will learn who feeds it and takes care of it over time. Also if you buy it then its yours so you can make it sleep with you if you want and hold it when you want weather it makes your sister mad or not just don't be to selfish

Answer 10

Maybe set some times when your sis can be with the puppy! Always remind your sis he is just a puppy and not to be to rough. I always feel the same way as you do when my cousins come over, i recently adopted a dog, so they were all over him. Just relax , im sure it will work out

Answer 11

well if it's your dog, then you get to decide what happens with him. your little sister is prodictably gonna want to spend every waking moment with your new dog. let her sometimes, but tell her that it's your dog and you get first dibs. or tell her later. take her out for walks sometimes too. but tell her that the puppy needs some space sometimes.

it's not really bad what you're feeling. you worked really hard to get the dog and you want it all to yourself, it's no big deal. when my older brother got a dog, i was all over the thing and he was sooo furious. but he explained that he wanted time with the puppy, and asked me if he could play with it now, and i could play with it later. it worked for me, but i don't know about your sister. try and get your parents to distract your sister from the dog sometimes, but let her get at least a few daily doses of puppy.

Answer 12

It's ok for your sister to love your puppy and hug and kiss him but you should be the only one doing the training. If he is your dog he needs to learn to listen to you abd do what you say. You don't want to confuse him by having too many people training him. I would tell your sister she can walk him when he gets a little bigger and is properly trained. Also, make sure he sleeps with you as well.

Answer 13

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Answer 14

If you're the one training your dog, he'll probably bond strongly with you, no matter how much snuggling your little sis does with him. :)



Never fear, dogs have lots of love to go around.



Chat to your parents about your concerns about her "mobbing" the new pup, and hopefully they can help you.

Answer 15

you feel this way because you saved the money for the pup, not her. You feel that she should have to ask your persmission since it is going to be your dog. That is totally understandable. Just remember, if you are the one doing everthing for him, he will look to you as master, not her. He will still love her but not the same way as you. You have nothing to worry about.

Answer 16

i say you tell her if she wants to "snuggle" the puppy shes also going to have to do the other stuff too like cleaning and helping you with cleaning out the poo. also don't let it sleep on ur bed no matter how tempting it may seem because he/she could develop behavioral problems, when it gets older and can actually do some damage it will think its dominant because you let it sleep with you and no one else slept with on ur bed so he will consider himself dominant

Answer 17

Trust me once you see how much work it is,you'll be glad your sister is ready ,willing to help



you are amazing for saving that much money,wow

must of been most of your xmas and b-day monetary gifts you received

unless you earned it working



don't worry,she could be your side kick...

Answer 18

If you feed the dog, play with the dog, give him some treats, and just some space. He will go to you more. As long as you give him more care and things he needs he will be your dog.

Answer 19

If you are the one that will train him, then he will bond with you the most. Your sister will hug on him and such but he will know of you as his person that he is supposed to listen to.

Answer 20

if you are his primary care giver, he will bond with you. try not to be tense around your sis because your pup will pick up on the tension.