Boyfriend wont get rid of dog. New baby....?

Question

My boyfriend and I are raising a 1 month old baby girl. she our only child by the way. Since we brought our baby home our dog been acting strange. He chewed up my breast pump and wakes her up with all his barking. our boyfriend doesnt trust him so he has him outside basicaly all day. when he inside he stays in kitchen to eat and drink then he goes into his kennel. i feel bad that he does this to him i hate to say it but i just feel like we need to get rid of him. he needs someone who has more time for him. i started to dislike the dog more since my baby arrived. my question is.. is it reasonable why i want this dog gone. i talked to my boyfriend on getting rid of the dog but he said if the dog hurts her or tries too then hes gone. he had this dog for almost 5 years. how can i convince my boyfriend to give it away to someone who has the time for him. because on his days off my boyfriend plays video games and friends. pleaae help!!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Put unwanted baby up for adoption.

Answer 3

The dynamic of your family structure changed when the baby was born and that is a difficult thing for many animals (and people) to adjust to. It's no one's fault it's just the way it is and to me it sounds like your bf needs to go over basic training with your dog again.



if your bf really wants to keep the dog he needs to make some adjustments so that the environment in your home is good for everyone. It's not healthy for any of you to just skirt the issue by putting the dog outside.



(In my state it's illegal to leave a dog outside alone for more than 20 minutes when temperatures get over 90* and word is that laws like that are being pushed in several states)



It sounds like it's just minor things (although annoying) that you're dealing with right now and my advice would be to speak with a trainer. We had similar issues when my oldest was born and a trainer helped us out tremendously.



I'd reach out on a local fb swap/shop page and see if there are any trainer recommendations.

Answer 4

Things need to change. Either talk with your boyfriend and tell him that it’s not fair to keep the dog like this and that he deserves to have a better life, or keep the dog but change how he is treated and trained.

Here are some things that a dog should have:

1. Two meals of good quality, healthy food per day, unless advised otherwise by a vet.

2. Exercise. The amount of exercise needed will often depend on the breed/type of dog in question.

3. Regular grooming sessions. The amount and regularity of said grooming sessions needed will depend on the breed/type of dog and/or the type of fur/hair (short,curly, non-shedding,long, etc).

4. Appropriate, substantial shelter and a nice bed.

5. Kindness and respect from the guardian/s.

I would also strongly advise that you seek the help of a good, humane dog behaviourist who doesn’t use choke chains or shock collars. If you don’t change things, this all could lead to the dog attacking your child.

Best of luck.

Have a great day (or night)!

Answer 5

you write that your boyfriend has had this dog for five years, and now a baby has come into your lives.. a baby comes with dramatic life changes for mother and father, but usually a mother is far more emotionally equipped to adapt...for dad it is a role that takes more time. the baby is one month old, an infant, and dad is playing video games and with friends which is how he feels comfortable and this is good...but he knows that you dislike this (his) dog, you wrote that you began to dislike the dog MORE after your baby was born.....and this is the real issue.



for your boyfriend, the babys father, he is extremely conflicted. he has been presented with a choice, the dog must go or the dog cannot be part of your family...but you must realize that for many caring people giving up a dog to the pound is a horrible choice...your boyfriend knows that his dog with him five years has a possible death sentence in his future if another home is not found for him at the shelter... so refusing to make that choice he keeps the dog away from you and baby.



the best solution would be if you could find a home for this dog yourselves...the baby is still an infant, you have time to list him around the country, perhaps some family could be found that will take him.... this can be no reflection of you or your boyfriends attitude about caring for the dog........ people have differing attitudes about loving and caring about dogs,

Answer 6

Since the BF won't get rid of the dog. Why don't YOU move out. You can't get rid of the dog...it's not your dog, not your home, your not married to him.



So, this dog has been living INSIDE the home for 5 years, now the precious child appears and instead of actually training this dog and bringing him inside to be part of the family, you kick him outside. The both of you have caused the problem.



Don't blame the dog, blame yourself & your BF. BTW, instead of playing video games, shouldn't he be helping with the baby? Why bring a baby into a relationship when your not committed to each other anyway? That's another whole can of worms.

Answer 7

Dogs kill babies, the filthy mutt must go.

Answer 8

I worked in a shelter for two years and so many cats and dogs ended up either dead or tossed around because of reasons like this, or my all time favorite "moving. "Why get the dog if you wanted kids? It isn't the dogs fault. The dog is jealous and obviously not trained. Get him trained. It is YOUR job as his owners to make sure he is trained. He cannot sign up for the stuff on his own!!



Oh and bring the dog inside! 5 years inside and all of a sudden tossed outside?? Thats just asking for the dog to get even worse issues.

Answer 9

Please find the dog a responsible home as neither of you have any business having a dog. You have a massive problem in that your boyfriend is not taking responsibility and training his dog. He chooses to just put the dog outside alone while he camps out on video games. This is not appropriate behavior for a grown man or new father. He needs to get up off his butt and take proper care of his dog which in turn is taking proper care of you and his child. I hate to tell you but your relationship with him is doomed. He is extremely irresponsible and it is not to be taken lightly. Living things are suffering because of his irresponsibility.

Answer 10

It this not the right kind of dog for baby. It a bad situation unfortunately it could get for the dog being around dog/cat or kid. The kid could be afraid dog for life if your keep the dog.

Answer 11

Cause the dog is doper than that stupid fugly baby

Answer 12

Wow people are seriously judgemental... it is totally understandable that you would want to get rid of the dog. After I had my daughter the dog that we had for about 8 years got very jealous and didn’t take kindly to her. He would agitate her and even snapped at her once. So unfortunately we had to find another home for him, I was devastated and still miss him but I’d never forgive myself if something had happened to her. If the dog is temperamental and hostile around the baby he has to go ASAP. If he’s just being more destructive than usual, maybe he is jealous or wanting attention. It all comes down to what you feel is right for you and your child. BF needs to prioritize, try putting it in perspective for him: if something happens where the baby is seriously injured by the dog it will most likely be put down, so nobody wins. It would just be better for everyone if you guys found a new family for him.

Answer 13

You’re being ridiculous. The father had the dog 5 years and you’re uncomfortable because you had a baby? If I were him I’d get rid of you!

You’re not being fair. Dogs get jealous, the dog hasn’t hurt the baby. Try interacting with dog and baby and stop whining

Answer 14

Pets eliminate children, the unclean pooch. Usage go

Answer 15

get rid of the boyfriend, he'll take the dog with him



that'll knock out 2 birds with one stone

Answer 16

All you need to do is train the dog and show the dog some respect instead of just leaving him outside. He is probably jealous and wants your attention which your not giving him

Answer 17

I thought this was going to be a troll question asking if you should trade your baby in and get a new one lol!

Answer 18

The dog is used to being the only one getting all the attention. It is important to introduce them to each other and pat the dog while you are holding the baby so it does not get jealous. We have a large dog who adores the little kids and will lie gently with them on the floor. We give her a lot of attention also and train her to behave properly and safely.

Answer 19

our boyfriend doesnt trust him.

you words not mine. That seems to say it all. So that dog is me important than his baby? maybe you need to go home to your parents and leave him with his dog.

Answer 20

leave the child, the dog came first

Answer 21

Well. That's what dogs do. You'll have to teach your dog not to to that. Enroll him in some training program. So probably it's because your are giving your baby more attention then the dog. Like you have to change diaper,etc

Answer 22

I’m in a similar situation. What breed is the dog? We have a shih tzu and he is sometimes snappy with us and has nipped us and drawn blood when we have tried to get him to do things he doesn’t want to.. go outside for a wee etc. He’s unpredictable. He also barks at everyone going past our house which wakes the baby. My boyfriend is reluctant to get rid of him, but I’m the one that stays at home with him and my 10 month old all day and he really is hard work and I worry he will snap at the baby. He seems quite tolerant of him but it only takes a second. So I don’t know what to do at the moment either.

Answer 23

i mean you should give the dog up to a caring family if you guys really can't handle the stress of your dog but at the same time it's really unfair for the dog bc you can't just give away your dog because of one day that you couldn't properly take care of him. both you and your partner should have made a decision before you had the baby. remember, dogs have feelings too. think about it, five years is plenty of time to get attached to you, so imagine what the dog will have to go through when he realizes you've given him away. yes the baby is number one priority but honestly this decision should have been made way before your baby was born.

Answer 24

It sounds like your dog is acting up because he is feeling neglected. So yes, finding a different home for the dog is probably best for everyone.

Answer 25

maybe try doggie daycare. This will definitely help him get his energy out if he is given the opportunity to play with other dogs. The poor little guy is just lonley and doesn't understand why all the attention isn't on him anymore.Also tell your BF how you feel and tell him he is going to have to pitch in with the dog's care if he wants to keep it i.e walks, dog park etc... Let him into the house and out of the kennel too. Imagine how you would feel if you were stuck in a kennel all day. You'd probably get a bit rowdy and frustrated too! Please keep the dog, to you a dog is just part of your life but to the dog YOU ARE HIS WHOLE LIFE. Wait until the baby is a bit older and when he/she will be a little less work before you make any major decisions.

OH and dog puzzles like the thing with the golfers in the cave work wonders! A ball that pours out treats will keep occupied too.

Answer 26

I think you should probably trust the dog more, he probably only ate your breast pump, either because it's new or it tastes strange to him. And the barking is probably because he doesn't get attention. I won't say leave them unsupervised, but if the dog hasn't given you a reason to be wary of him, then i don't see why you need to eliminate him from the equation at all. However, if you insist, the best thing is probably to tell your BF that unless he makes time for the dog, he has to give him away to a better home.

Answer 27

If you feel this Is A Sudden Behavioral change, then take the dog to a vet, to rule out any medical issues, once medically cleared, train it. Instead whining about it on YA.





IMO, these behaviors did not magically appear... they existed without any correction, long before your pregnancy, due to lack of training, which both of you should have considered before becoming pregnant.



Dogs can not chew anything if you dog proof the premises, put everything away, breast pump, so it can't access anything. Her barking should be controlled by proper training when and how much it barks is completely the responsibility of both of you. Again training.



Dogs are not lawn ornaments to be tossed outside without supervision, and ignored nor will teach the dog anything. Kennels, crates, cages are for transport, recovering from illness, injury or surgery, it does not teach the dog anything.



Sounds like a bored/destructive untrained dog, that isn't receiving enough daily aerobic exercise, such as playing fetch, mental stimulation, such as obedience training, in addition to his routine, daily walk/elimination times.



You can't convince him of anything, regarding His Dog being gone, not your dog, however, perhaps it's a better option to try to convince him for the both of you to seek professional help on how to train a dog properly, instead playing childish video games and to act his age, not his shoe size.



He now has a family to be responsible for now, if he refuses, get out now, don't get pregnant again, take him to family court for child support, other wise this cycle will continue to repeat itself and is not a healthy environment to bring up any child.

Answer 28

Your priority is your baby, not his dog therefore you will have to rehome him. It's very worrying that your boyfriend says he wants to wait until the dog goes for the baby or threatens to before he will rehome him, If it was my baby I would want to avoid this happening in the first place. It is sad but sometimes baby's and dogs don't mix but the baby always comes first. Your boyfriend obviously doesn't trust his dog and for me that would set alarm bells ringing.

Answer 29

Totally the fault of both of you for not sorting this out BEFORE the baby came along with all the things that should be done with the dog in that period.



By keeping the dog away and outside you are going to cause a bigger problem.



If the relationship was right with the dog in the first place this could have been sorted. Both you and the boyfriend need to make the decision as to whether you work to integrate the dog and baby or the dog is rehomed.

Answer 30

Your handling of this animal is ASKING for trouble. When you keep a Dog cooped up, or outside all the time, you de-socialize the animal, and you WILL end up getting bitten before it's all over, as a direct consequence of this.

That said, you don't ask someone to give up their pets any more than they ask you to give up your children. Its downright inappropriate period, and could mean the end of your relationship. Therefore, unfortunately, your just going to have to learn to deal with it.

Answer 31

Well, he had his dog for five years and you want to get rid of him? Do you have the idea of how many dogs are left behind on dog shelters waiting for their owners to come back and see that they're gone and not coming back? This dog loves his owner... He's been with him for 5 years. Just think about it. I'm pretty sure when the baby grows up he or she will play a lot with the dog and have fun. You can't just have a dog for a long time and say "Baby is here, time to get rid of this dog". I wouldn't get rid of my dog honestly.. They're the most loyal animals...

Answer 32

I agree with you

Answer 33

Get rid of the boyfriend and get yourself a real man or better still, a cat.

Answer 34

aaaaah.... just dump him, or deal with the dog. another option is buying a cat and killing the dog, making him think that now he has to deal with the cat. really viable tbh.

Answer 35

I worked in a shelter for two years and so many cats and dogs ended up either dead or tossed around because of reasons like this, or my all time favorite "moving. "Why get the dog if you wanted kids? It isn't the dogs fault. The dog is jealous and obviously not trained. Get him trained. It is YOUR job as his owners to make sure he is trained. He cannot sign up for the stuff on his own!!



Oh and bring the dog inside! 5 years inside and all of a sudden tossed outside?? Thats just asking for the dog to get even worse issues.

Answer 36

Get a new BF. One with no pets so you can't be jealous of the pets.

Answer 37

Typical for some poor dogs - baby comes in the front door, and dog ends up going out the back door. If either, or both of you can't do better than shutting him out then please find him a good home where he will be appreciated. Very sad.

Answer 38

How bout simply training the dog to accept the baby for a start... you see dogs are not throw away items... Just as babies aint either BOTH ARE FOR LIFE...